Inching Forward

A year of "firsts" have come and gone ... anniversaries ... the kind that you don't want to celebrate ... because they're all reminders that someone special is missing .... 

first Father's Day, 

first summer break, 

first family reunion, 

birthdays, 

holidays ...

and the one day you will always look at with a twinge of sorrow ... 

the first anniversary of when you said goodbye.

My emotions are still all over the place ... up ... down ... sideways.  Like yesterday, while I was pulling together stuff from the garden to make for dinner, random tears suddenly started flowing and I had to stop and catch my breath ... treasured memories just want to spill out when you least expect them.

It's a strange road to travel ... but I've managed to fool everyone into thinking I'm doing just fine ... well, not everyone ... there are the chosen few who see beyond the platitudes ... the ones who have an occasional glimpse of the loneliness and confusion .... but they don't push me to "move on" and even allow me to drag my feet a little in the healing process.

God is so gracious to me.

Still ... it seems like I'm making progress ... my smile isn't so forced ... and it's finally showing up now and then when I'm all alone.  

I guess you can say I'm inching forward .....

Give Us This Day

A little over two years ago I was compelled to start sharing a daily verse on Facebook. Another year passed and I was compelled to find a picture to go with the verse. I never know where the Lord is going to lead me when I open His Word ... this was the picture and verse for today ... which seemed very appropriate for the eve of Charley's passing ....

My goal is to know Him and the power of His resurrection and the fellowship of His sufferings, being conformed to His death, assuming that I will somehow reach the resurrection from among the dead. Not that I have already reached the goal or am already fully mature, but I make every effort to take hold of it because I also have been taken hold of by Christ Jesus. ~Philippians 3:10-12~

I am still struggling with a LOT of emotions and still find myself crying at the most inopportune moments  .... some days I really don't know what in the world I'm doing here .... but I'm trying .... "trying" being the key word .... trying to stay in His will and not rush into anything or do anything stupid .... trying to let Him lead me and guide me in every area of my life .... thankfully the Lord has been faithfully feeding me His "daily bread" every single morning, so that I can get through each day in a way that honors Him.

Hope Will Pull You Out

Promise once it shut you out

You ask, "What was that all about now?"

You and I, through rise and fall

We've seen the horizon through it all now

Close your eyes this time

'Cause trust is all we have tonight

But trust will be forever

Safe your dreams will be

'Cause trust will be the light tonight

So close your eyes this time

The trust will be your light tonight

So close your eyes this time

The house sits stale, it lets you roam

Inside it just don't feel like home now

I promise hope will pull you out

For that's what love is all about

Close your eyes this time

'Cause trust is all we have tonight

But trust will be forever

Safe your dreams will be

'Cause trust will be the light tonight

So close your eyes this time

The trust will be your light tonight

So close your eyes

And time will turn this place around

For a man you call Jesus was still a son like you

Sons will spend their days searching hard

For the things they are made of

They are made of

So close your eyes this time

And trust will be the light tonight

So close your eyes this time

And trust will be the light tonight

So close your eyes

To Listen To This Song Go Here ----------------->   Close Your Eyes

Just because ...

I really don't need a special day 

to remember you ... 

but just for the record ... 

you will always be my Valentine 

and I will love you forever, Charley.

Two Precious Souls

We were devastated to hear

that during a routine ultrasound check up

they discovered no heartbeat for both twins.

Even though we know that these two precious souls
 are now resting in the glorious arms of our Lord

we still grieve the loss of watching them grow up.

It comforts me to imagine that Charley,
along with many of their other Grandparents,
and family members, will be hovering nearby

waiting for a turn to snuggle
these two new inhabitants of eternal joy.

I imagine that eventually their Aunt

and a whole host of other little ones

will gladly give them a tour

of their new home.

Charley's Insight

A little over two years ago, just before Thanksgiving, an ear infection suddenly turned into a life threatening episode with meningitis for Charley.  It still amazes me how quickly we found ourselves transported from the comfort of our living room to the sterile environment of the Critical Care unit.  As I hovered nearby, watching Charley wake up to awareness of who we were and slowly accept what had happened to him, I could not help but wonder what might have been ....  We have always been a family that understood the importance of hugging someone and telling them that you love them, just in case ... this took on an even greater significance after Charley's near brush with eternity.

When Charley was transferred out of Critical Care and into a regular room to fully recover from his ordeal the first thing he wanted was a Bible.  I could not put my finger on it, at the time, but I did notice that there was a greater sense of urgency and need behind his wanting to read the scriptures.  I admit that I was a little baffled to see him break down and weep when he got to John 3:16 ... such a familiar verse in our lives and yet this time it was read with great emotion.  After he had fully recovered and returned to work again, he eventually told me that he had seen some things while he was hovering between our world and the eternal ... mostly peaceful things, but some, which he would not go into detail, were unsettling.  He mentioned, briefly, seeing the faces of demons ... and other things ... which only confirmed how near death he had been.

Charley's awareness of what could have been ... then ... helped him to face what was happening earlier this year, when he realized that the surgery to remove the tumor from his spine was not as successful as we had hoped.  He had already been given a glimpse of the eternal, so he could face it with peace ... he knew what to expect and he knew where he was going.  After seeing everyone near and dear to him, and expressing his love for them that weekend, he suddenly blurted out, "Well, I think it's time to go."

If I ever had even the tiniest doubt about eternity, they were all quickly dispelled in those moments of watching him peacefully prepare to meet his Maker.  To this day I still wonder over what he saw, as he reached for the ceiling ... and though I could not make out what he was saying, there was no doubt that it was something marvelous to behold, as he spoke nonstop towards the end, with great excitement in his voice.

This insight into eternity was something that Charley wanted everyone he loved and knew to share.  Charley prayed every single day for the salvation of every single person he encountered in life.  I can still hear his voice echoing in my mind as he prayed for all of his nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles, cousins, brothers, sisters and friends ... and he always ended his prayers thanking God for the gift of salvation and the love of Jesus Christ.

This Christmas, I hope that you, dear reader, have received this gift of salvation ... for indeed, God ... so loved ... the world ... that He gave ... His Son ... so that you, too ... might face death and eternity with peace.

Share the Comfort

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as we share abundantly in Christ's sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too. If we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; and if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which you experience when you patiently endure the same sufferings that we suffer. Our hope for you is unshaken, for we know that as you share in our sufferings, you will also share in our comfort. ~2 Corinthians 1:3-7~

This passage has become a familiar activity throughout the many trials in my life, taking comfort and sharing in comfort.  Such a simple word ... comfort ... but so full of depth and meaning ... for in receiving comfort I take into my life, my soul, if you will ... love ... hope ... peace ... and then I have the privilege of sharing in comforting others.

Yet He knows the way I have taken; 

when He has tested me, 

I will emerge as pure gold. ~Job 23:10~

Jangle

Thirteen years does not seem like a very long time, but for some cats it is ...

I cherished our last few weeks together ...

She will be greatly missed ...

Rest in Peace

Jangle

6/29/00 - 11/12/13

One Thing Remains

We sang this song during worship today,
it touched my heart in a powerful way ...
so much so that I needed to "capture" it here,
so that I can return to it as often as possible ...

Higher than the mountains that I face

Stronger than the power of the grave

Constant through the trial and the change

One thing remains

One thing remains

Your love never fails, never gives up

Never runs out on me

Your love never fails, never gives up

Never runs out on me

Your love never fails, never gives up

Never runs out on me

Because

On and on and on and on it goes

It overwhelms and satisfies my soul

And I never, ever, have to be afraid

One thing remains
One thing remains

Your love never fails, never gives up

Never runs out on me

Your love never fails, never gives up

Never runs out on me

Your love never fails, never gives up

Never runs out on me

In death,

In life,

I’m confident

and

covered by the power

of Your great love

My debt is paid,

there’s nothing that can

separate my heart

from Your great love...

Your love never fails, never gives up

Never runs out on me

Your love never fails, never gives up

Never runs out on me

Your love never fails, never gives up

Never runs out on me

and just in case I forget what it sounds like ...

One Thing Remains
sung by Jesus Culture

October

This month is full of birthdays ...

nearly two dozen that I know of ...

friends

family

our grandson's first

and

another first

yours

which we will celebrate

without you ...

we will have your favorites

something Asian

cake and ice cream

most likely chocolate

a glass of wine (for me)

maybe a movie ...

all the things you would do

if you were here

instead of there

I'll plaster on a smile

and laugh ...

for their sake

and then

behind closed doors

(or not)

I'll cry ....

September 2nd

Eighteen years ago
we started painting a life together.

A life full of various colors.

Our love, a shade of red,

and laughter, a hint of blue.
A touch of green held our quiet, 
peaceful moments,
with a sunny yellow 
filtering in warm contentment.
Purple, sometimes royal in brilliance,
shaded our times of renewal and growth.
A spark of orange would appear
during our daring adventures.
The occasional dab of grey
was added here and there
during times of sorrow or loss.
The colors varied with the seasons,
sometimes bright and bold,
sometimes a soothing, shy pastel.

Our vow, 18 years ago today,
was "for as long as we both shall live."
You put down your brushes
three months ago
and left me with a canvas
not yet complete.
You see what is already done
while I work to blend the colors right.
I labor on, but not alone,
for the One who guided both our hands
is with me still ... 
helping me finish the work
that He started in us.

Measuring Time

I could count the days, weeks, months ...

even hours ...

since you left this realm ...

but, it wouldn't change a thing ....

You

are

not

here.

Plain and simple.

I go through the motions ...

wake up,

cup of coffee, or two, or three ...

seek God's face ...

stay busy ...

some days easier than others ...

pay bills ...

run errands ...

groceries ...

church ...

take care of the kids ...

and the pets ...

and the house ...

walk with a friend ...

phone calls ...

live ...

breathe ....

til it's time to go to sleep ...

then toss and turn ...

til it's time to wake up again ....